The Marriage Preparation Process
Meet with your Marriage Preparation Minister
As soon as your engagement is official, but before you set a date, you should call your parish and schedule your first meeting with your pastoral minister (priest, deacon or lay minister), who may also serve as the celebrant for your wedding.
Take the FOCCUS Inventory
FOCCUS (Facilitate Open Caring Communication Understanding & Study) encourages couples to discuss a broad range of topics that can help them learn communication and conflict resolution skills.
Provided to couples at their parishes, online, or at the Diocesan Retreat Day (Celebrating Your Love).
Choose a Mentor Couple
Couples will choose a mentor couple who can support, encourage, and pray for them throughout—and beyond— the marriage preparation process. Marriage preparation ministers can help engaged couples select a mentor couple. Parishes are encouraged to adopt Witness to Love as a way of guiding the couple-to-couple relationship.
WITNESS TO LOVE IS A VIRTUE- AND GROWTH BASED MODEL OF MARRIAGE RENEWAL AND PREPARATION
INTEGRATING MODERN PRINCIPLES OF PSYCHOLOGY AND THE VIRTUES
HELPING COUPLES FACILITATE AN AUTHENTIC DIALOGUE ABOUT THEIR RELATIONSHIP.
WHAT MAKES WITNESS TO LOVE DIFFERENT?
WHAT MAKES WITNESS TO LOVE UNIQUE IS THAT THE ENGAGED COUPLES CHOOSE THEIR OWN MENTOR COUPLE. THIS IS A COUPLE THEY BOTH ADMIRE AND SEE AS A SOURCE OF FAITH FORMATION. THIS MENTOR COUPLE GIVES THEM A CONCRETE CONNECTION AND INTEGRATION INTO THE PARISH. THROUGH THE SHARING OF THE MENTOR COUPLES’ OWN JOURNEY OF LOVE, THE ENGAGED COUPLE INHERITS A “LIFELINE“ OF SUPPORT IN THEIR COMMITMENT TO JESUS AND HIS CHURCH.
1) Attend Celebrating Your Love: A Diocesan Retreat Day
A one-day retreat held on Saturdays at locations throughout the Diocese. The program presents a summary of Catholic teaching on marriage and an overview of life skills essential for marriage.
2) Begin Mentoring Process (Witness to Love) -- AND / OR -- Attend an Engaged Encounter Weekend:
Engaged Encounter Weekend is a wonderful retreat experience of presentations and personal sharing related to marriage; an option for couples who, for practical or pastoral reasons, are not involved in the mentoring process.