Family Spirituality

The Office for Family Life and Spirituality is here to serve and support the families in our midst (The Domestic Church), along with the wider Family of Families (The Church).

Your Family As Domestic Church

We are created by God to be and live in communion with each other.  The family is the micra ekklesia (“little church”), a place that St. John Paul II described as “a living reflection of and a real sharing of God’s love for humanity and the love of Christ the Lord for the Church His bride.” (Familiaris Consortio)

The principle and foundation of being Domestic Church is about becoming aware of the permanent and constant presence of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit in our homes. Out of that awareness and from the experience of God’s loving presence in our homes, the desire arises to pray, read the Bible, sing, dance, forgive, serve neighbors in need, celebrate, cook, clean (home liturgies) and give thanks for the gift of life and faith.

This process does not occur by spontaneous generation; rather, it must be prepared, requested, and desired with an open heart. In the end, it is a grace that is already offered to those who seek it. Being the Domestic Church is not a straight or continuous path, it has its ups and downs, but throughout there is the breath of the risen Lord who lives and constantly reminds us, “Do not fear”, “peace”, “I am with you” until the end of the times.

Pope Francis’ Amoris Laetitia offers us a pastoral guide as to how to continue to build the Domestic Church.  Regarding raising children in faith, Pope Francis recommends that parents “need symbols, actions and stories” and “moments of family prayer and acts of devotion…which can be more powerful for evangelization than any catechism class or sermon (AL 288).  Utilizing these areas of growth, families can continue to build the Domestic Church in their own homes.

Prayer:  Prayer is fundamentally about deepening a relationship with God; although there is no style of prayer that is “holier” than another.  Are families “checking in” with God regularly perhaps at bedtime or before meals?  Do families pray together before certain events or to mark special occasions?  Do parents expose children to different forms of prayer, intending to spark their spiritual imagination?

Actions:  Several research studies have indicated that parents’ involvement in church has a profound effect on whether their children will remain Catholic.  Is mass attended regularly?  Are parents involved in parish ministries and share in parish community, especially with other families?  Does the family volunteer for community organizations that serve the vulnerable and honor the dignity of life? Does the family have a mission statement?

Stories:  Children are alive with imagination and crave stories.  Do families read the Bible together and explore the lives of Jesus and the prophets?  Are children familiar with the stories of the saints, who model paths to deepening our relationships with God?

Symbols:  The symbols we use communicate our values and our priorities, especially those in the physical space of our homes.  Is there religious imagery on the walls?  Is there an obvious “sacred space” created for prayer and communion with each other?

Building Your Domestic Church

Please review the resources and tools below for building and strengthening your domestic church, from resource compendiums like Growing Up Catholic and ForYourMarriage, to lay ecclesial movements that serve to evangelize and build community among families.

provides a wonderful variety of content to guide and support your family in forming your domestic church.

Missionary Families of Christ is an international private association of lay faithful whose primary work is evangelization, founded on family renewal. It focuses on renewing the family and defending life, as well as participating in the work of building the Church of the Poor. MFC is active in the Diocese of San Diego.

is a parish-based national network of small groups of Catholics and their families. Members of all faith traditions are welcome. CFM builds community, strengthens families and builds a parish into a family of families. Individuals, couples and extended families of all ages and stages grow in discipleship through learning to live the methodology of observe, judge, and act.

helps families access the treasures of the Church’s teachings on marriage, family life, prayer, Scripture, the Sacraments, etc. specifically as a spouse and a parent, utilizing the grace of the Sacrament of Matrimony to do so. Couples participate in an Evangelization Retreat and then join a Family Circle that meets once a month.

Dr. Gary Chapman presents a simple truth: relationships grow better when we understand each other. Everyone gives and receives love differently, but with a little insight into these differences, we can be confidently equipped to communicate love well. This is true for all forms of relationship – for married or dating couples, for children and teenagers, for friends and coworkers, for long-distance relationships, for those brand-new loves and for the romances that are older than the hills. Click here to learn more.

is dedicated to assisting families in making the home the living heart of the church.

Tools for Building a Domestic Church from the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops.

Family Fully Alive, from the Knights of Columbus, helps families place God and the Catholic faith at the center of their lives. 

Loyola Press provides resources to nurture Catholic family life and to recognize the grace of God in daily living. 

Growing Up Catholic provides resources for parents in the faith formation of their children at home.

offers ways for parents to practice the “Corporal Works of Mommy and Daddy” to experience and encourage a more meaningful spirit of service in the home. 

Nurturing your marriage is one of the best way to lay a strong foundation for your Domestic Church. Click here for marriage enrichment resources.

Resources for Families during COVID-19

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Additional Resources

“Authentic spirituality is not something above or beyond everyday life but embedded in messy midst of it”

– Tim & Sue Muldoon, Six Sacred Rules for Families

To form a family is to be part of God’s dream, to join him in building a world where no one will feel alone.”

– Pope Francis, Amoris Laetitia 35

The welfare of the family is decisive for the future of the world and that of the Church.”

-Pope Francis, Amoris Laetitia 31


Ricardo J. Márquez, PhD
Associate Director
Phone: (858) 490-8295
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Janelle Peregoy, M.Div.
Associate Director, Separated & Divorced Ministry
Phone: (858) 490-8292
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Belen M. Olivero-Barnett
Administrative Assistant
Phone: (858) 490-8299
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Dcn. Bill Adsit
Mental Health Ministry Coordinator
Phone: (858) 490-8299
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