Who exactly are Adult Children of Divorce? As the name implies, these are adults whose parents divorced during their childhood. For some children of divorce, the effects of their parents’ relationships may not be intimately felt until adulthood. Some adult children of divorce may often feel alone and lost in a Church and in a society that promotes an idealized nuclear family. Some may struggle with trust, avoid conflict or fear commitment. Adult children of divorce are statistically more likely to divorce themselves and may struggle to form healthy attachments in relationships. All these dynamics are normal and expected in adult children of divorce. However, the past does not determine the present.
Life-Giving Wounds is a Catholic ministry to young adults and adults with divorced or separated parents. We provide three-day healing retreats, ongoing support groups, and online resources to help men and women turn the wounds and pain caused by the dissolution of their parents’ relationship into life-giving resources of faith, hope, love, and joy. You can connect with the ministry and directors Dr. Daniel and Bethany Meola by email email@example.com, e-newsletter, or our Facebook page.
Primal Loss: The Now-Adult Children of Divorce Speak edited by Leila Miller, 2017. For a free PDF of this book, courtesy of the author, click this link: https://www.leilamiller.net/digitalbook
This foundational work offers the candid and often heart-wrenching answers to eight questions the editor posed to adult children of divorce. What were the main effects of your parents’ divorce on your life? What do you say to those who claim that “children are resilient” and “children are happy when their parents are happy”? What would you like to tell your parents then and now? What do you want adults in our culture to know about divorce? What role has your faith played in your healing?
Their simple and poignant responses are difficult to read and yet not without hope. Most of the contributors–women and men, young and old, single and married–have never spoken of the pain and consequences of their parents’ divorce until now. They have often never been asked, and they believe that no one really wants to know. Despite vastly different circumstances and details, the similarities in their testimonies are striking; as the reader will discover, the death of a child’s family strikes the human heart in universal ways